Janio’s Blog

A couple days ago I wrote a fiction article about a guy that has an awful day, which ends with him and his girlfriend breaking their relationship. I didn’t detail their lives together, but an aware reader easily would figure out that they had a stable relationship, since they lived in the same house.

Well, those facts never happened, but every fiction text has something to do with its author’s life, and in my case, my most recent relationship (I hope it was not the last one) ended in a not so comfortable way, and I am getting acquainted again to the single way of life.

It has been quite a time, already, and since I hate the bar scene, where do I meet people to date? There are lots of answers to this question, but right now I would like to talk about the Internet game.

Perhaps because I found my former partner in the Internet, and we had such very good years together, I feel inclined to try it again for a possible new beginning. But one has to be cautious, because Internet dating is a two-edged sword. I have met some very, very good friends on there, but I have also met psychos, inconsiderate people, liars, and all kind of… you know… “Them”.

At first, one can think Internet is a paradise, full of adult beautiful clever people.

The first myth to be busted uses to be the “clever” part: there are tons of illiterate people, who cannot even punctuate a sentence correctly, or use more than twenty or thirty different words for hours and hours.

The second myth uses to be the “adult” part. I just cannot realize how it is possible to find so many teenagers looking for cyber-sex, instead of being with their counterparts, at college, bars, or wherever younger people go to find others like them.

And there is another fraction of liars connected to the “adult” thing: the elder people who lie that are so much younger than they really are, and when an actual date becomes a possibility, they just run away, frustrating who is not just lying like them.

I wish people could understand how easy it would be if they just told the truth about them. Not all the truth, it is not really necessary most of the time. But when one fantasizes about something, it takes a lot of energy to sustain the lie. Of course, I am not meaning the roughest lies, as pretending online to be thirty and in real being sixty.

And taking a ride with the age issue, I see people are not that interested in age nowadays. I speak for myself, at least: I would have no problem to fall in love with someone twenty years older than me, or — uh — fifteen years younger. The matter is not how many candles one is blowing each year, but what goes inside her spirit!

I think girls are inclined to find even more problems and dangers with online dating, because there are several times more male psychos all around than female nuts. Everybody should have their first meeting with someone from Internet at a restaurant, a mall, or any other public pleasant place, but never at home or private office. And women are, as much as I realize, so much more inclined to have self esteem problems if a guy just doesn’t call them at the day after.

My philosophy has always been to be totally honest and upfront from the very beginning. I never lie about my extra pounds, my humor, my personality, or anything. If you happen to find me online, and we engage for a real date, expect to find the same man that has been described behind the screen. I hope to find the same in you.

But the bottom line is: people are not what they always seem, and Internet makes things so much easier to incarnate a character that people would like to be. Lucky me, because I am already what I would like to be; if I happen to desire something different in myself, I just change it, and there is no need to lie. That simple.

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